Are you Quietly Quitting your marriage?

Much has been written in recent times about Quietly Quitting a job and now this pattern of behaviour is being linked to a certain type of marriage. Here we take a closer look.

What is Quietly Quitting a marriage?

In terms of marriage, quietly quitting describes a situation where one or both parties have disengaged but the couple continue to live together without divorcing. It can be described as a sort of Zombie Marriage, where a couple remain married but lead separate lives, looking for fulfilment and social entertainment elsewhere.

Why might someone Quietly Quit their marriage?

• Lack of physical and/or emotional intimacy.
• General disinterest in each other.
• Lack of respect for each other.
• Failed attempts to improve the marriage.

Signs of Quietly Quitting a marriage

• Separate holidays either alone or with friends
• Attending social events alone or with friends
• Rebuilding an identity focused on individual preferences, without the compromise that being in a couple can involve.
• Interactions with your partner are transactional – you operate like business partners or housemates with little or no affection between you.

Why Quietly Quit a marriage and not divorce?

Sometimes quietly quitting a marriage is a precursor to divorce. When this is not the case the reasons given for quietly quitting include:

• Less disruption for the children, especially high needs children.
• To avoid the emotional earthquake of divorce.
• To avoid the financial fallout of divorce.

Generally, it is difficult to maintain a marriage in which the parties have Quietly Quit. There will be catalysts along the way that will challenge the status quo, such as the children leaving home, a physical affair or an inheritance. When this happens, some couples will turn to therapy to see if the marriage can be reestablished but where this is not possible, many will go on to divorce.

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