Help for separated parents planning the summer holidays

It is never too early to plan for the school summer holidays. This is particularly pertinent for separated parents because arrangements that work well in termtime can be inadequate over the summer holidays.

Thinking ahead gives you time to shape the best arrangements for your child. It can be difficult to agree over how much time is spent with each parent, as issues include not only day-to-day care but also arrangements for one or other of you to take the children away for a summer break.

Additional complications can include:

• How will the summer holidays be funded?
• How might any new partners fit into the arrangements?
• What role might grandparents or extended family members play?

Making the arrangements in good time will give certainty to both parents, bringing you peace of mind. And importantly it means the children know what is coming in the weeks ahead.

Along with planning in advance, we would suggest the following tips.

Keep focused on the children

Your children will benefit from both parents cooperating and putting their needs at the heart of the planning. Children also appreciate routine and continuity, so if it is possible try to keep up with any clubs, sports and activities that they enjoy over the holidays.

Use a shared calendar

If possible, using a shared calendar system can help you both keep track of specific dates such as holidays, clubs, events and pre-booked trips and activities. This overall framework can be used to schedule the rest of the holiday period.

Once the calendar has been completed, share it with your children. When they know what is happening, they feel more secure.

Budgeting

With a rampant cost of living crisis, the financial strain of the summer holidays can feel overwhelming. If possible, try to start budgeting and saving as early as possible. If this isn’t an option, you can have fun being creative seeking out low-cost activities.

Ideas include a picnic in the park, subsidised local community programmes and activities, teaming up with other families for shared childcare and staying with other family members, such as grandparents and cousins.

Overseas holidays

If either parent is planning to take the children abroad, remember that consent is required from the other parent (or anyone with parental responsibility). Always ensure you have this consent before making any bookings. It’s also helpful to set up regular times for the children to stay in touch with the other parent while they’re away.

Consider Mediation

If reaching an agreement is proving difficult, support may come from a neutral third party such as a trusted friend or family member. Alternatively, professional family mediation offers a structured, child-focused space to work through disagreements and develop a workable holiday plan.

If you are struggling with issues arising from separation and divorce, we offer a no obligation initial consultation for a fixed fee of £150 (incl. VAT), for up to one hour. At this meeting, we can advise you on all the issues relating to your personal circumstances, allowing you to make informed decisions moving forward.

To book an appointment please call 01444 472700, email us at info@tisshawssolicitors.co.uk or complete the form below.