Deciding to separate or divorce can be heartbreaking, often intensified when there are children involved. While you may dread telling your children and having to cope with their reactions, we have some useful guidelines you can follow to help them continue to feel loved and secure.
The news of your separation or divorce will be life-changing and we would suggest spending time with your ex-partner (if at all possible) to prepare what you are going to say to your children. While all children are different and you will be the best judge of when, how and what to tell them, we have compiled some general advice to help you plan your approach.
Initially, expect your children’s behaviour to change while they adjust. For example, they may have increased anxiety, a change in sleep or eating habits, feel sad and depressed, get into trouble at school or seem angry all the time. This is to be expected, but if you feel a child really is not coping with the situation do seek professional advice from your GP.
In the longer term, maintaining a practical and functional relationship with your ex-partner based on shared values and boundaries, is the best way to help you co-parent your children together. Building this type of respectful relationship will also help both of you to move on in a positive way, ultimately benefitting both you and your children.
We know how difficult divorce and separation can be, so we offer an initial one hour fixed fee consultation with a fully qualified lawyer, to help you make an informed decision about how to proceed.
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