Philippa Perry’s A-Z of Divorce

This week we’re delighted to have Philippa Perry’s A-Z of divorce. Philippa is a psychotherapist and author, known for her work on mental health, relationships and parenting.

This post was first published on Substack on November 26th November 2025 and Philippa has kindly allowed us to publish it here.

Philippa’s Substack includes a weekly Ask Philippa problem and answer post, available to free subscribers. Paid subscribers have access to additional problems and answers and essays on psychology.

Philippa’s Substack can be found here https://philippaperry.substack.com

The A-Z of Divorce

A

Admin, Assets, Abandonment, Alimony

B

Betrayal, Blame, Burnout, Bitterness

C

Conflict, Compromise, Contempt, Co-parenting, Courts

D

Dishonesty, Disentangling, Disrespect, Danger of Domestic Violence, Denial

E

Expectations, Emotional Load, Exit Strategies, Evidence Gathering

F

Finances, Freedom, Fallout, Fear Responses, Family Dynamics, False Promises, Fresh Starts

G

Grief, Ground Rules, Goodbyes, Guilt, Grey Areas, Gaslighting

H

Housing, Healing, Habit Breaking, Hope (tentative)

I

Identity Shift, Independence, Impact on Kids, Isolation, Infidelity, Insecurity

J

Justice System, Judgements, Joint Custody, Jealousy, Justifications

K

Kids, Keeping Structure, Key Decisions

L

Lawyers, Legal Fees, Letting Go

M

Mediation, Maintenance, Memory Revision, Moving Out, Manipulation Money

N

Negotiation, New Routines, Nostalgia, Neutral Spaces, No-Contact

O

Overthinking, Options, Ownership, Outbursts, Old Parents

P

Parenting Plans, Paperwork, Power Shifts, Property Division, Protection Order, Practicalities

Q

Questions, Quiet Warnings, Quitting the Fight, Quality of Life

R

Resentment, Rebuilding, Ritual, Rebounds, Relocation

S

Support Systems, Settlements, Separation Shame, Stress Cycles, Social Fallout

T

Triggers, Therapy, Temporary Orders, Trauma Truth-Telling, Terms & Transitions

U

Uncertainty, Uncoupling

V

Visitation, Victim Narrative, Validation

W

Warnings, Wins & Losses, Withdrawal, Weaponising Witnesses

X

eXpenses

Y

Yearning

Z

Zero-sum

Zones of Control

Do you have any of your own to add?

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