How to cope with post-divorce loneliness

The early days of divorce can feel overwhelmingly challenging as you grapple with the sadness, anger, shock, grief and loneliness of your new situation. You may be coming to terms with spending less time with your children, getting used to living in a new property, living alone for the first time, upset at the prospect of losing mutual friends from your life and worrying about the future.

Do be assured that these feelings are all completely normal and are part of the grieving process you need to go through to move on. And while you may think that this new reality will feel like this forever, it helps to remember that you will heal, move on and rebuild your life.

Here are our tips and advice on coping with post-divorce loneliness during those early unsettling times.

Tips for coping with post-divorce loneliness

Practice self-compassion

It’s important to recognise the impact and stress of the divorce and to give yourself the time and space to acknowledge your feelings and to grieve the loss of the marriage. Loneliness is an inevitable part of the divorce process, but it is temporary. If possible, focus on small pleasures such as a good book, nutritious meal or indulgent bath but do not be afraid to face and express your feelings. During this time, divorce support groups, either online or in person, can be invaluable, as you can share experiences and advice for getting through this difficult time.

Establish a new routine & focus on the future

When you feel ready, it can help to establish a new routine. This will give your life some structure at what can feel like a chaotic time. You can also begin to look forward, think about how you want to live your life over the coming years and start to make plans for this to become a reality.

Rediscover your identity and interests

Try to find space and time to rediscover yourself and your interests. What makes you happy? What have you always wanted to do? Take things slowly and gently and gradually get used to being alone and enjoying your own company.

Rebuild your social life

Reach out to your closest friends and plan some social outings. In the early days, prioritise quality over quantity. One meaningful social interaction a week can be more supportive than going out every night at this stage. Once you feel ready you can also look at building new connections by joining a club or taking up a new hobby, to find a new community of friendship and support. You might also want to challenge yourself with a fundraising activity, such as bungee jumping, trekking to Everest base camp or running the New York Marathon. Any such activity will keep you occupied with training and deliver a huge boost to your confidence.

Seek Professional Support

For those really struggling, professional support can really help. Consider therapy, joining a divorce support group or spending time at a retreat designed to help you heal and move on.

If you are struggling with issues arising from separation and divorce, we offer a no obligation initial consultation for a fixed fee of £100 (incl. VAT), for up to one hour. At this meeting, we can advise you on all the issues relating to your personal circumstances, allowing you to make informed decisions moving forward.

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